by it girl™

The signal, not the glass
Putting the glass down was never about white-knuckling past the want. What I was reaching for was one specific feeling - the loosening in my shoulders after the first sip - and that feeling is a calm signal my nervous system kept asking for. The move that finally worked was handing it that same signal from something that did not cost me the next morning. That turned out to be a completely different problem than quitting, and it actually had an answer.









