by it girl™

The reach is rational
If you are a woman in your 30s, 40s, or 50s who reaches for a glass at 7pm, this was never a discipline problem. A full day of meetings, messages, and small fires keeps your cortisol elevated for hours on end, and that constant cortisol slowly burns through GABA, your nervous system's own calming off-switch. Molecule by molecule, the calm you are supposed to make for yourself gets spent before the day is even over. By evening there is almost nothing left to flip, so your body reaches for the single fastest source of calm it knows how to find.
That reach is the body answering a real biological need, not a sign of weakness. You did nothing wrong, and naming what is actually happening is the first step to fixing it for good.











